The Compassionate Friends Madison Area Chapter Newsletter October - December -  2025
 
For current information or in the event of inclement weather and a meeting may be cancelled, check our website: www.tcfmadisonareachapter.com Send emails to: tcfmadisonwi@gmail.com
 
      
  We invite you to share a memory, photo, favorite toy or any item with the group at a monthly chapter meeting on the birthday month of your child.  This is an opportunity for all to get to know your loved one a bit more.  Please contact Jim or Tanya before the meeting so we give you a bit of time to share.
 
 
Benchmarks 
 
Goodbye would be too difficult, although I know you are gone.
Instead, I keep you in my heart and your memory lives on.
 
I have redfined my purpose, son, since you are no longer here.
With your death I faced a choice, to die, exist or to live free.
 
My life has changed forever, child, I'm redefined each week,
You would call these "benchmarks" of goals set and achieved.
 
And so I set my benchmarks, achieving many, reshaping some...
But everything is different now, except your mother's love.
 
Annette Mennen Baldwin, TCF Katy, TX, in memory of her son, Todd Mennen 
 
Winter Blues
 
Often times at this time of year, we find ourselves 'lost and sad' because of the cold cloudy days, being kept in the house by snow and ice storms.  Here are some ideas for Self-Care.
 
  • Take action:  Actively do something for yourself, weather a new hobby, meeting with friends, or just writing a note to someone
  • Take quiet time for yourself
  • Read, enjoy music or journal
  • Take time to get outside (if possible), walk, jog or join an exercise class, wellness center or gym
  • Get plenty of rest, sometimes taking a nap can work wonders
  • Protect yourself from illness.  
  • Limit stressful things like the news, unplug from screens
  • Self care has dimensions: Physical, Emotional, Psychological, Spiritual
 
Facebook Group
 
We now have a facebook group.  Please know this is a private group vs public.  This allows members to share information about their children, ask quetions of each other, and discuss common things related to our shared expericnces in a confidential environment. 
 
How to joun thie group:
 
1.  From your feed, click Groups in the left menu.
2.  In the seach bar at the top enter the name of the group you are looking for
3.  Select the group, then click on "Join Group"
4.  You may need to answer questions before submitting your membership request.
5..If you membership is approved, you can officially post in the group
6.  One you've gained accss, make an initial post telling us something special you want us to knw about your child and post a picture if you'd like
 
Contact Tanya Sutton if you have questions! tanya.sutton@sbcglobal.net 
 
The Compassionate Friends Madison Area Chapter would like to express our gratitude to
Ad Press & staff for providing the printing of the newsletter.
Your generosity and excellence in quality and service is greatly appreciated
 
 LOVE GIFTS
 
     A Love Gift is a gift of money (or books) to The Compassionate Friends. It is usually in memory of a child, grandchild or sibling who has died, but it may be from individuals who wish to honor a relative or friend who has died, a gift that their children are alive, or simply a gift from someone who wants to help. The Compassionate Friends charges no individual dues or fees and depends on such Love Gifts to meet the Chapter’s expenses, including the printing and mailing of this newsletter. Please send any Love Gifts to our treasurer, Donna Knickmeyer, W14118 Selwood Drive, Prairie du Sac, WI 53578 Checks should be made out to “The Compassionate Friends.” Name__________________________________________________________________________
 
Address_________________________________________________________________________
 
City,State,Zip_______________________________________________________________________
 
In Memory of:_____________________________________________________________________ 
 
We wish to thank
 
Gina Accola, in memory of their daughter, Roxanne Harroet Accola
James & Tena Borchardt, in memory of his daughter, Ashley Kay Borchardt
Jeannette Bossingham, in memory of her daughter, Kathryn Irene Warren
Terry Geurkink & Sally Wilmeth, in memory of their daughter,
Jennifer Leanna Geurkink and son, Kyle Wilmeth Geurkink
Kevin Gould, in memory of his son, Alan Gould
Charles & Laurie Grubba, in memory of their daughter, Stephanie Lynn Grubba
Jo Gruber, in memory of her son, Jeffrey Alan Gruber 
Lucille Haack, in memory of her daughter, Cindy J. Haack
Rosalie May, in memory of her son, Kerry Richard "K-May" May
Jeff & Lisa Rath,  in memory of their daughter, Hailey D Rath
Barbara Reynolds, in memory of her son, Jimmy Reynolds 
Ron & Patty Wood, in memory of their son, Andrew Thomas Wood